While we are here.. let’s talk about my Zulu neck piece. This is actually the second one I have owned as my first one broke but my story fits regardless.
As I was stood in Soweto outside the Hector Pieterson museum.. the man selling me the neck piece said all the colours on it signify South Africa, Rainbow nation. He said that is what South Africa is about. Although he did not go I to detail.. he planted a seed.
I since looked it up.. the phrase “rainbow nation” was coined by Arch Bishop Desmond Tutu to describe post-apartheid South Africa.
What I loved however was how Nelson Mandela expounded on it in his Inaugural speech on 5th October 1994
: “Each of us is as intimately attached to the soil of this beautiful country as are the famous jacaranda trees of Pretoria and the mimosa trees of the bushveld – a rainbow nation at peace with itself and the world..”
The quote says it all. If I was to give you my point of view on this quote, it would go something like this. Our intimacy with each other is crying out from within and in order to get in touch with that, we must be at peace with ourselves. In so doing, freeing ourselves to the beauties of this world.
If I am to describe myself I often say I am a citizen of the world for I have many stories to tell and experiences the draw from. All of which make me a well rounded person, more receptive to difference and curious to know more about others.
I think it is the greatest idea to allow that instinctive need for connection take precedence in our every day interactions.That way, we can be free.
Because at the end of the day, there is nothing better
(c) Faith-Rose Ansah
I speak for the fellow doers. Those of us that get things done. You don’t have to be an artistic genius. The only requirement is focus on a particular task until you finish. Here in lies the problem. You are gifted (for bursts at a time.. we are all guilty of procrastination) in that you produce results. People see that. People feed off that. People want some of that so people approach you to do what you just did and sure enough you say yes. This yes is not isolated because you continually say yes and keep doing and doing until doing is all you do but the question in all this is where are you? Are you simply a robot moving to someone else’s tune or are you master of your every day?
It is your responsibility to know when to say enough is enough because at the end of the day, you’re the one that suffers. You are the one in control of how much you will do because I know you are capable. I had to have this conversation with myself and reassess my choices, my commitments and all that was eating my time. I have a mental list of all the things I can smash, maybe one day I will share it with you.
There is a long list of things I am capable of doing. Simply because that is the way I am made up. I have lived a life where I have had the opportunity to develop several skills simply because I have learned to entertain myself (this is another post for another day). I am a hands on person and thrive when I move. I love to express myself through many mediums and when I am in the zone, nothing can distract me. This is a beautiful place to be. It is like the hum of a honey bee’s wings. Sweet. (It is like right now, I am lost in this moment of creative expression through words and the rain drops outside provide that background music to this moment. )
You will notice the dress that I made. Sitting on my head is my fascinator that I made some time ago. You will notice the hair, you will notice the makeup and you will notice the choice of a backdrop. Right now we will simply focus on the dress.
People will always say that I should make clothes for others and I tell them in no uncertain terms, I do not make clothes for people. I simply make them for myself. It is not because I am not capable but simply because I do not want to. My talent is not for my own exploitation because I want to move through life knowing I did what I loved to do and that is to create. I find joy in be ability to create something beautiful and the process is simply amazing. It requires perseverance, focus and vision. Of the three vision. Vision is the fuel, the motivator and the force that pulls me through even in my darkest of times. It is the ability to see the feeling you want at the end. Some may view this as selfish but the truth is when you are aiming to create a feeling, there is a certain fluidity that has a certain delicate nature, it is easily disturbed. It is not with the view to make money but to create that which will last in my mind’s eye. So this dress is my vision come alive for in it I feel like a queen. I will not be taking orders if I don’t want to for the creation process must be respected. If you haven’t picked up on it, my message to you is you should only do what you want if you have the choice. In case you don’t know, If I was a superhero, my superpower would be choice. Therein lies freedom.
Everyone wants to be free. Remember; you are one choice away from freedom.
p.s. if you enjoyed this post, you should also check out some of my older posts like this one I just read through it again. It is a beautiful piece and I explain a little more of my super power of choice.
Let’s talk. Right now I am beyond frustrated. I don’t even think this will help but we will see at the end. A quote often attributed to Einstien.. Although I am not too sure about that is
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein
I actually feel insane right now because I have been attempting to edit a youtube video since Tuesday night. It is now Friday. Bearing in mind I have a lot of other things I need to do. So it is my favourite video so far, kente look. It consists of makeup and scarf tying.
Initially I edited the whole thing which by some sort of weird twist of events got corrupted when I tried to convert the file.
So the day I post my videos had come, Wednesday, but I had a corrupted video that could not be saved. So I thought of this Einstein quote.. You know because I had saved it in many different ways, hoping for a different result. so I was insane at that point. But I said, no, I will flip this on it’s head and show my tenacious side. With this decided determination, I got to editing. But this time I was going to do it in 2 parts. Well you know, because editing 40 minutes of film into 6 minutes can take a bit of time.
I was successful. I felt good. I published the video.
So still riding on this high, I decided to edit the makeup element and as if by rehearsed mockery, the file got corrupted again just as I finished it. So right now I am contemplating leaving it all alone for some time. I say some time because the type of person I am means I will go back to it. But then I wonder if it is a dog going back to it’s own vomit. It is the thought of not having any control on the outcome of your efforts. Much like a relationship. You can only put yourself into a relationship but cannot determine what the other person will read/receive that as. Where you are vulnerable and defenseless. At the mercy of everything but yourself. I don’t like this feeling.
Right now, this is my release. Honestly I am close to tears. It takes so much time to produce something beautiful and at this moment technology tells me I can’t. Do I simply go back to solely working with my hands where the fruits are tangible but limited to my surroundings or do I spread my wings on my technological plane of world domination, sharing my wisdom and pride in my identity.
Well when I put it like that. I think I should have a break and resume in a few days. I think I will try again on Sunday.
Here is said video- well.. the scarf one only
Yes.. That is me in the picture smiling.. I am having the best wash day ever lol.. Okay lets cut all the cheesy talk.. Seriously. It is simple to get what you have always wanted 1- less breakage and better manageability. Did I mention that it only takes me a couple of hours to go through my whole wash day process?
Here’s how much hair I lost in 1 wash day!!
Well here is how I do it
Now this is a simple step of preparing your hair for the washing process by loosening it with water and oil. My oil of choice is olive oil because it improves elasticity and nourishes your scalp (side note- I don’t put any oil on my scalp but that is another story for another day so pre-pooing helps a lot). The water is the moisture that we are all trying to trap. Plus I just love the way my hair feels after having my pre-poo on for at least an hour!. You can use heat too for deeper penetration if you like 🙂
2-Smooth hair throughout
What I mean by this is tug hair and smooth it at any given chance. Work slowly and with love to evenly distribute product and protect hair. I tend not to rub my hair so that it does not get tangled
3- Finger de-tangle
For me this is the key to keeping as much hair on your hair as possible. Finger de-tangling simply means you can feel each strand individually and gently work your way through the tangles while easing them out. I have found this to be the most effective way to manage my hair and I generally don’t comb my hair unless I want an afro!
If you want to see how I wash my hair please watch the video below! It has many tips and tricks.. p.s. you will want to keep your eye out for more videos on how I prepare my hair for different things.. e.g. if I want to have an afro or if I want to blowdry it! Stay beautiful, stay strong and love everything God gave you !!
So the words right here are.. share your story here.. well if I must.. I will tell you why it is one of life’s skills
1- It protects your hair– not that you can’t be free and let your hair run wild… but if you would like to make sure your hair is in perfect place post-styling make sure you get that scarf on… remember to let your edges breathe though… don’t run them off with overzealous scarf tying action…..
2-Saves you from a bad hair – you know those days… when you maybe fell off the faithful hair care band wagon… maybe you didn’t sleep with a scarf on.. or maybe you really don’t have time to make your hair presentable. Well on those days, a scarf is the batman to your robin.. it’s the butter to your bread.. it is the only way you will leave the house looking sane… who wants to be a hermit anyway..
3- It brings out your inner queen- there is just something about a perfectly tied head scarf.. it takes the sophistication to another level and your confidence too. It’s as though your shoulders drop back, head is raised high and you glide into any room with a commanding presence.
Who doesn’t want to be an instant head turner,the one that walks into a room and it is obvious that they are walking on air. . Yes it is possible. . All because of the magical accessory. . The scarf
Now.. you are ready..
Watch the video below to see one of the ways to bring out your inner queen
Get it girl !!!
Stay classy, stay sophisticated and bring out your inner queen for YOU are beautiful… NOW
First of all… watch the video above. This is how I do my favourite style.
Now you are ready… please note… the secret is NOT.. I repeat.. NOT in the tutorial… it’s down below…
The secret to having a halo that is both puffy and flat on the top is simple…do it more than once.
No i dont mean practice makes perfect.. although that is the truth… what i mean is you have to do it twice.
1- First on damp freshly washed hair. Make sure you moisturize your hair sufficiently (I use the L. O. C. method-liquid, oil, conditioner)
2- Second on dry hair... Remember what I said in the tutorial about brushing to smooth not to detangle.. Yes.. In doing so, you are keeping the top slick while puffing out the bottom for more body.
I know you may say that natural hair is thirsty and requires lots and lots of moisture for it to be manageable . While I agree with that completely, you have to pay attention to what I just said… you s the same style more than once… specifically… TWICE… it is the same direction, same manipulationwith a sleeker finish. Who doesn’t want to be sleek afterall?
Try it and see how you go.
I’ll do a tutorial on how I moisturize my hair and how I flat twist it. I’m the mean time.. stay stylish,stay sophisticated and always remeber you are beautiful… NOW !!
First of all the aim is to keep it basic. (I will do an effortless / more natural look in the weeks to come). What I like to do is to pick out the parts of my makeup routine that I love the most and try and incorporate them into my look. Lets look at the 3 essentials
1- Eyebrows on fleek:
We are at a time when out eyebrows gotsta be ON FLEEK!! so on for an everyday look I like to have brows well defined by cleaning them up with concealer (Mac Pro-longwear concealer- NC45).
2- Face highlighted:
I love to have my features stand out. I don’t have the perfect skin for strobing (psst.. you can click on the highlighted word so that you know what strobing is.. ).. but I am working on it. What I do like to do though is to highlight my face only so that when that light hits my face, it is emphasising those cheek bones, the cupid’s bow etc.. (Mac Pro-longwear concealer- NC45)
3- Lips moisturised:
It is only in the past couple of years that I have started putting lipstick on. I used to be so self conscious about my lips, I would only put a light layer of vaseline so that there is no shine what so ever. I have moved on from that as you can tell from my glossy lip. My essential would be a MOISTURISED LIP. Nothing more, nothing less.(Vaseline)
So go on with your bad self- Get your eyebrows on fleek, Highlight those features, moisturise and shine shine shine.
Want to see it in action?.. Check out my video below 🙂